First dates have the potential to beawkward, nerve-wracking disasters.
The possibility ofstriking gold with the person sitting across from you, though, does exist. With some luck, youll find yourself actually enjoyingtheir company, thinking about the potential of seeing them again.
For a long time, established societal dating rules (you know, the ones created out of thin air)have often influenced womens actions when deciding how to properly present themselves in-person. Weve been led to believe that when on a first date, any disrespectful behavior couldbe misread, and can therefore ruin your date.
Thankfully, times are changing, and so is the silent acceptance of the dating rules weve been told to follow.
To be honest, they probably shouldve beenditched a timeago.
Below, youll find a list of first date dating rules that youcan happily ignore. Its time to throw that rulebook right out the window.
1. Dont wear high heels.
In the world of online dating, where people lie about their height all the time, this rule has taken on a new significance.
Women have been told to refrain from high heels to keep from damaging their dates ego. Youll tower over him, with potential to intimidate him or make him feel uncomfortable if youre too tall. You may even make him feel less like a man.
And you wouldnt want to do that, would you?
Forget that, girls.
Can we remember its date, too? And they are your feet! If you like flats, go for it. Sandals? All you. But if youre one of those women that feelscomfortable sexy when rocking heels, do it up.
Who cares if your date lied about his height and now feels puny in your presence? Youshouldnt have to dress down just to spare hisfeelings.
2. Dont dress too sexy.
Women are encouraged to bemoderately dressed on a first date.
In other words, try to not be too schlumpy, while balancing out the proper level ofthe sex appeal. Dont letthe man think of you as aslob a slut. Because (obviously) both are awful and women should strive to be neither.
I say you should dress dress however. You. Want.
In fact, dress for .Always consider the setting of your date, but if dressing super sexy makes you happy and comfortable, do it without a second thought. If casual and comforting is your thing, you can go that route too.
Dont think too muchas to what kind of image you may be projecting. First date advice that encouragesthe idea that women should be dressing for other people is simply garbage.
If he doesnt respect you for how you look, hes not worth your time anyway.
3. Dont talk about politics, religion, or kids.
There are certain topics that are very common duringfirst date conversation:the weather, your job, and where youre from are just a few from that list. More serious topics, like politics, religion, or having kids in the future are said to besaved for a much later date to prevent from scaring him off.
But since I enjoy saying whatever I want, Ill talk about whatever I damn well please on a first date and you should too.
If politics, religion, kids, or any other serious topic is something you want to bring to the table right away, do it.
You may want to know whats up with your potential new guys views on things that are important to you. Conversely, maybe you are just looking tospark up a hot, argumentative conversation because thats your style.
On the first date with my husband, we talked about everything from my priordivorceto my feelings on monogamy.
If hes going to get scared off by parts of your life,hes probablynot the guy for you.
4. Dont check your phone.
While its generally not a good idea to be glued to your phone while out on a date,pulling out that cellular deviceto check on something isnt the end of the world, either.
If your career demands a lot of time and attention (and phone usage), dont hesitate to let your date know that. You wouldnt want to get in trouble for missing that important email. Its important to have a hold on your priorities.
Its possible to enjoy your dates presence, but at the same time, not allow it to hold up any other parts of your life.
If you have to look at your phone, do it.
5. Dont sleep with him.
Similar to the rule aboutnot dressing too sexy, this rule is meant to keep you from coming off like a tramp.
Why should there be a rule that takes control over your sex life?
If you dont want to sleep with someone on a first date, you dont have to. You have no obligations and there are no promises made to your date. But if youre looking to get busy, theres nothing wrong with that.
The idea that women should act a certain way to prevent men from seeing them as easy is beyond tiring. Its your body, youre an adult, and if hes into you as you are to him, go haveall. The. Naked. Fun.
On the first date with my husband, I wanted to sleep with him right way. I wasnt going to follow any rules about waiting and when we should do it.
The traditional rules many of us are given about first dates are not only outdated, theyre downrightsexist.
Ignore these first date rules and instead, do whatever makes YOU the happiest.